There can be a number of red flags that pop up when dating.
Some of these red flags will give you sense of whether they’re looking for something serious or just a bit of fun.
It can be really difficult to tell who is genuinely looking for a long-term relationship and who is just looking for a hook up.
We’ve compiled a list below of some of the red flags you can look out for.
They ask for your number immediately.
They have no reason to ask for your number straight away. No matter how you’re conversing, it’s always going to be as anonymous as you make it, so there’s no need to exchange numbers before you’re comfortable.
If they’re pressuring you to do so, this can be a sign they’re not seriously looking for anything longer term.
They don’t take ‘no’ for an answer.
Regardless of what it is you’re saying no to, if they don’t respect your answer then that’s a big red flag.
It’s important to set boundaries that you’re comfortable with and people should respect that, especially if they want to build a meaningful relationship with you – friendly or romantic.
They only have one thing on their mind.
Sex and intimacy can be very important in a romantic relationship, but if he launches into talking about that immediately, then that’s usually all he’s looking for.
People aren’t just their bodies or how they look. For something longer lasting, it’s best to spend some time getting to know someone first.
They aren’t open and honest with you.
We all have little secrets. We all have things we might not be comfortable revealing to a potential partner straight away and that’s absolutely fine.
However, if they won’t answer basic questions or won’t tell you things about themselves, that can be concerning.
Be honest and open with what you are expecting from them and if they’re not willing to meet you in the middle, maybe it’s time to cut your losses!
If someone showers you with love, affection, gifts, or extravagant things right at the beginning of the relationship, this is a huge red flag.
You might not even notice at first and just think they’re being caring and generous, especially if it’s not something you’ve experienced before as it can be very flattering. If it’s over the top, this is known as “love bombing”. They lure you in by thinking they’re lovely and generous and this is how the relationship is going to be, but the majority of the time it’s not sustainable and their behaviour changes.
They don’t want you to meet their friends/family.
If a guy is serious about a relationship, they should be honest with you if there’s an issue with meeting their family. If they just keep avoiding it or making excuses, this can be a worry.
Usually people want to show off their new partner and introduce them to everyone that they care about. If they’re not willing to do this, there needs to be a conversation about why, other something isn’t right.
Of course, you always need to be cautious when dating new people and always be alert for any of these red flags.
Make sure you talk about things and set clear boundaries and be honest with each other from the start.